Never thought that I would ever see Janet Jackson live in concert, but last night I did. I was gifted a free ticket. I’m assuming that if I really pushed the idea, then it could have happen at another time, but the idea just never seemed to cross my mind. Which is absolutely absurd given that my friends and family all know that, this grown man will stammer his words and get all giddy, at the mentioning of Miss Jackson. The baby sibling of the bunch has always been my favorite and had a special place in my heart, ever since I discovered her as the character Penny on Good Times. Then, when Janet released her “I Get So Lonely” video in ’96, I became further enamored by that woman. The red hair (she always mixed up her style-loved that about her), that walk-which comes across more like a strut, and of course her rhythmic dance moves. And then, upon further discovery of her music, you can’t help but find songs that stick in your head, well after you’re done playing them.
Moreover, I really am taken aback by how Janet chooses to embrace her sexuality and display it. She talks about some really freaky stuff in her music, and when you hear her sing about what she likes and doesn’t like, it really gets to you. I think it’s really empowering to be comfortable enough to share that part of yourself with the world, yet still be graceful and command the respect that she deserves. She does that so seamlessly, but there’s no doubt about how difficult I’m sure that is for a lot of women. Toni Braxton, Nia Long, and Jill Scott do that well too, in my opinion. Oh yeah, and so does the main character in my first book, Raquel.
Now that I’ve let the whole world know about how smitten Janet Jackson has me, it would be wise for me to probably mention how I enjoyed the concert. To sum it up, it was nothing short of fantastic. She was electrifying on stage. The woman still moves like gravity cannot slow her down one bit. Although I selfishly wish she would’ve pulled me up on stage to perform a dance, like she used to do at her concerts. But, she’s married now and in a different place…
When Janet brings her Unbreakable Tour to a city near you, go and see her. You will enjoy it.
And, if you haven’t picked up my novel, Every Woman Deserves an Accessory on Amazon, go and pick one up now. After tomorrow, the free giveaway is over. Hurry while the promo lasts. And thank you, to everyone who downloaded the book! This promo has been very successful! I’m super grateful to have your support.


Listen to her new single “No Sleeep” feat J.Cole

Be Good To Yourself

Life is an experience that should be savored and thoroughly enjoyed. However, no matter how positively we may strive, life unfortunately or fortunately, depending how you view the glass will not. Life has a way of waning us through varying emotions that sends us scurrying for cover just when things get really rough.

With January being Mental Health Month, I thought it would be cool for me to share some tips that help me stay sane. Being a teacher is one of the most rewarding and equally challenging jobs. Students are vying for your attention at a given moment, there is always a lesson to plan, a paper to grade, and a meeting to attend. But, did I forget to mention the sea of eager students waiting patiently to learn? My apologies please. Being busy can sometimes make you forgetful.

Anyway, below are a few examples of how I enjoy to decompress in a non-turnup with a Bluedot Ciroc kind of way.

1. Music


Music has a profound effect on human emotions. It has the power to make us feel a range of emotions that can span between happiness and sadness in the same song. For example, a song could have a really killer beat and the most depressing lyrics ever. But,  you don’t even notice how saddening the words are because you’re too engulfed in how melodic the production is.

After a long day, I cue up the cd player on the way home and rap-depending on if I need to vent some frustrations or sing my way to bliss. Who cares if potential parents and students see you dropping mad rhymes in the car to 2 Chainz? A Happy teacher equals a happy student. A happy student equals a happy teacher. It’s a cyclical relationship in which both parties benefit.

2. A Long Shower or Bath


There’s something magical about being submerged in warm running water. Something about it makes you feel clean all over and not just in a rub-a-dub kind of way. Standing or laying down in a tub and basking in warm water feels spiritually renewing. I’m often to pressed for time to sit and soak in the tub, besides I think it’s a little funny for grown men to lay in a bath tub unless your with your woman. But, guys you could always tell people that you injured your shoulder playing college football and medically required to take long baths in lieu of showers. It’s depressing some of the things men have to do and say in a so-called “Progress & Free Society.” I digress.

But seriously, take some time when you come straight home or right before bed to wash yourself rid of all the days drama and stress. Hopefully, you’ll have a nice and warm bed to greet you when you step out and dry off.

3. Treat Yourself To Something Delicious


I made a deliberate decision to cook more  this year since I spent so much money on restaurant meals and fast food last year. For the most part, it’s been working pretty well. I come home and heat up one of those microwavable frozen dinners and voilà, dinner is served. All jokes aside, I feel so much better about myself when I sit down to enjoy a home cooked meal prepared by me. Whether its edible is up for debate. But the fact of the matter is, I put in the time to create something that I can have for my betterment.

If you rarely cook dinner, try. Start small and maybe prepare one dish a week. Then, you may gradually increase the number of meals you cook each week. Now, if you are always home cooking and rarely eat out, then it may be a good idea to give yourself a break. Spend a little cash going out to eat at a well established restaurant. Order whatever it is that you want and be sure to dress comfortably and as stylishly as you like. Remember, you are doing great things for your betterment because you love and care for yourself.

A happier you, makes for a happier world. A happier world, makes for a happier you.

Here’s a relaxing tune to help you sleep easier tonight. Enjoy the soothing sounds of an islander summer’s rain.