Over the past year, I have learned to live in the now through: reading, meditation, and studying.
I was a planner, and in some ways, still am. However, I am accepting that plans are not always finite and that there should be room for changes to occur, because the only thing for certain in life, is the uncertainty.
The unpredictability of life used to be a hard concept for me to embrace. Growing up, older people would always explain life to me in a logical manner. One plus one would always equal two. If you do A, then B, will happen. In some ways, they are right. But, not in totality. Sometimes, you do things in life, and the results that you are planning for, do not unfold how you expect. Depending on how you view this, that could be seen as positive or negative. But the actions do not always have logical results.
When I acquired this concept of being in control of certain things in my life, yet not in control over other things in my life, I ascertained a clearer state of mind.
For me, and this space that I’m in, life is now all about enjoying and savoring each moment. The breaths feel fuller. The time, more languid. The hugs, much warmer and tighter. Foods more flavorful. Thoughts much more pronounced and developed. Body relaxed and at ease.
Simply at peace.
Fluid. Purposeful. Unrestrained.
Those are the best words that I can think of how to describe how this feels for me.
I continue to strive toward tasks and milestones that I want for my life. But as I do this, I am thankful for where I am currently present. I maintain a gratitude jar, where I write down victories that I experience in a given day. Over time, doing this has really trained my mind to appreciate the positives no matter how big or small they are.
If you recycle an old beverage container, you can makeshift that into your own gratitude jar. Write down the things that you are thankful for and capture your sentiments on paper. Toss it into your jar, and at the moment you need it most, unscrew the cap, pull one out and read it. Doing so may not change the situation that you face, but it will remind you of the other things in your life that are positive.
Being thankful is more than a verb. It’s a lifestyle. It takes practice to curtail your mind and refocus your thoughts, but it’s possible. And, it’s worth it.